Fifth, learn to be your own friend. Imagine your loneliness as a child crying in the corner. What would you say to them? “Stop whining”? Or, “I’m here. You’re not alone”? Become the person you’re looking for. It’s a long journey, but it’s the only one that leads to true intimacy.
Sixth, don’t compare your loneliness to someone else’s “happiness.” On social media, everyone laughs, hugs, and travels. But that’s just a stage. Behind the scenes, there are the same questions, the same fears, the same emptiness. Loneliness is a universal experience. It doesn’t make you “inferior.” It makes you human.
Seventh, try “solitude with intention.” Instead of running from it, immerse yourself in it. Sit down with them over a cup of tea. Ask, “What do you want to tell me?” Loneliness often carries unfinished stories: unspoken words, unlived feelings, an unlived life.
Eighth, don’t look for the “perfect” companion. There is no such thing. But there are people willing to listen to your truth, even if it’s uncomfortable. And to do that, you must first tell it to yourself.
Ninth: Loneliness passes when you stop running from it. Like any emotional experience, it requires acknowledgement, not suppression. You shouldn’t “get rid” of loneliness. You must let it in—and understand it.
Tenth: You are not alone, because you are here. You breathe. You feel. You seek. This is already a connection. With life. With yourself. With the world. And when you understand this, loneliness won’t disappear. But it will cease to be a prison. It will become a space for encounter.
