Fifth, prepare, but don’t rehearse. Before a difficult conversation, think: “What do I want to convey? What’s important to me?” But don’t memorize phrases. Otherwise, you’ll listen not to the other person, but to your own idea of how they’ll react.
Sixth, don’t demand “immediate understanding.” Sometimes, the other person needs time to digest your words. This isn’t a rejection. It’s a respect for complexity. Say, “I’m not expecting an answer right now. I just want you to know.”
Seventh, if your voice trembles, it’s normal. Honesty is vulnerability. And vulnerability is courage. Don’t be ashamed of a trembling voice. It says, “I’m taking a risk because it’s important.”
Eighth, conflict is an investment in relationships. It requires energy, time, and courage. But it builds depth. Because only through disagreements do you discover who’s there for you—even when things get tough.
Ninth, start small. Don’t discuss the most sensitive topics right away. Start with, “I don’t like it when you interrupt me in meetings.” See the reaction. Feel if it’s safe to speak. This is trust training.
Tenth, honesty begets honesty. When you speak from the heart, you give the other person permission to do the same. And then conflict ceases to be a storm. It becomes a bridge. Because the truth—even the awkward one—is always closer to love than a polite lie.
